Don't you just hate when people talk about there...

emotions and Stress openly, like to attract attention of others, i hate it so much and here's why:

Depression isn't really something to be proud of (I have gone threw it), its a period where you feel suicidal, though good things do come out of it, more appreciation for music, for the lyrics of songs etc... but some people talk about it openly, they go on websites typing 'Argh im so depressed, i want to kill myself, i cut myself... blah blah blah' to get sympathy and attention off people, they start changing themselves to look more depressed so people would notice that and ask whats wrong. etc...

Can't people just be themselves? I do like emotional people, but not people who are public about there emotions, not private, they prefer to tell the whole world that they are depressed and sad, that they cut themselves, it disgusts me. I call these people 'posers'. Yes, everyone needs to talk about their problems with someone, thats why you talk to your closest friend(s) about them, i realised it does help bringing me closer to my friends and im much happier now.

I have also found out some people create these feelings for themselves subconsciously and even consciously sometimes, feelings of sadness / depression, apparentely those feelings release some sort of chemical/hormone (like cutting) that is really addictive. People with depression should really go to a phycologist asap since these hormones / feelings can end up in your death, they make you want to suicide, hence the 'suicidal' feeling which is even more addictive. Get help!

'Emo' is a phase that you will eventually get through, it does leave behind some good changes in you most of the time, for example me; i love the emo style (scene is it? who cares, dont know much bout labels and dont want to) i love the gothic / emo clothing, its my kind of taste, i love the emo music, i love poems, i feel love alot more powerfully, i consider/care about the feelings of others more, etc *(cannot think of at the top of my head atm since im writing this without proof reading) anyway, the emo phase made me realise what i really like, made my emotions stronger etc.

Anyway back on topic, all i can say is, people who claim to be emo are posers, you cant just wear depression like a badge or something, like "im emo cause im depressed and i cut myself" guess what, not all emos cut themselves just be yourself please. I started cutting though cause i heard it helps, big mistake, i told my friends i did it for fun though, to not grab attention, though it did... ha, ahh well, when i think back i cringe =/ (i stopped cutting now)

If you have realised you have been doin any of the stuff i've mentioned - its not too late to be yourself, everyone sometimes tries to fit in, even me (though i cannot recall any times i have, my friends probably could) be yourself, i really love people that dont change for anyone, if you wanna wear goth then wear goth! dont give a fuck bout what people think, if its your taste then wear it ! =]

Just thought i'd throw in my opinions and thoughts bout posers and other things to contribute to this community / group, (sorry bout grammar and sentence structure, cba to write an essay for you guys :P)

Thanks, =]

I had a friend like this. In fact, many people around me are like this. I really believe in the power of the unconscious, and some people just feel the need to be victims. I had a friend that was like this and one day I just told her to stop making up problems and look at people that have real problems - start acting instead of whining. Even when she seriously hurt me several times, I ended up being the 'bad one' and had to apologize - multiple times, before she said that she was 'ready' to forgive me.

Disgusting.

Saying that you're not going to achieve what you want because life's never what you want it to be is also disgusting, in my opinion. You need to rise up. I'm a pretty cold-hearted person, but that's what I've become. I don't like people comforting me. I need people that would get me back on my feet. When people don't even try to stand up and just keep 'feeding on' people's compassion, they deserve to be forced to snap out of it - not to be encouraged to keep on living this fantasy that it's everybody's fault, when it's really your fault.

Truth is, that friend never talked to me again. Oh well...

I totally agree with you all above. I don't like when people talk so openly about that.. Its not something you can proud of it. Its really serious. Of course is good to talk to a good friend, parent or someone other, but not to everyoe. If your really depressed you wouldn't like people knowing about it.

Altough, in my opinion its easier for some people to talk about it on some forum, rather than talk to someone. My friend also showed his scars and said 'you know, cause I can see it, but Im showing it to you, because I want to found out if you all can see this or just me' Come on, if he sees it, everyone does.

This gets on my nerves so much :| .

I Agree. I Used to Be Like That and All It Got Me Was the Scorn of Everyone Around Me. I Mainly Had Social Problems and Had a Hard Time Fitting in. I Tried to Be All Depressed to Make Friends. Eventually I Just Learned to Be Myself and Not Try to Get Attention in a Negative Way. I'm Much Happier Now and I Just Don't See the Point in Making Yourself Miserable All the Time. Sure You May Have Problems Fitting In, But the are Better Ways to Make Friends.